Don't feel bad at all. Yes as you know it is easy to spot childern that are from different countries that have been adopted. But there are many kids that are adoped because of divorce and other situations too. And well your situation is beautiful.
I personally am a child of a adoption as a little one. My mom lost a child at birth and then adoped me when I was 5 days old. 15 months later she had my sister. Then 10 & 13 years later adopted my 2 brothers. I am not ashamed to be adopted or anything. I know I have loving parents and am in an amzing family. You shouldn't be afraid to talk to your kids about being adopted. I found out from my mom that I was when kids at school said I wasn't really sisters with my sister because we looked different. I went home crying because well of course she was. And my mom sat me down and talked to me.
Sometimes people and kids just don't know what to say. It is just sometimes when people ask a mom just after having a baby and they still have baby fat when they are expecting. They don't know they are sending that person home crying and feeling bad. If a person asks why about the color of your kids eyes...all this person did was notice your little one has beautiful eyes and was just maybe trying to find a way to let you know how beautiful they are. Or maybe they are trying to find a way to come over and talk to you. Don't feel so bad.
You don't have to feel like you are constantly labeling them. Just acknowledge that they are adopted. And accept that they are different and have special emotional needs.
I know familes with natural kids and one has black hair, one has brown hair, and one has blonde hair. You would think in some ways they are adopted but they aren't. Just know that you adopted your little one with all the love in the world and no matter what color eyes, hair or anything they are yours. Don't think so bad about things just take everyday as a blessing and love all your kids they are yours and you have been blessed to care for them and love them. You will always be their mom.
I personally am a child of a adoption as a little one. My mom lost a child at birth and then adoped me when I was 5 days old. 15 months later she had my sister. Then 10 & 13 years later adopted my 2 brothers. I am not ashamed to be adopted or anything. I know I have loving parents and am in an amzing family. You shouldn't be afraid to talk to your kids about being adopted. I found out from my mom that I was when kids at school said I wasn't really sisters with my sister because we looked different. I went home crying because well of course she was. And my mom sat me down and talked to me.
Sometimes people and kids just don't know what to say. It is just sometimes when people ask a mom just after having a baby and they still have baby fat when they are expecting. They don't know they are sending that person home crying and feeling bad. If a person asks why about the color of your kids eyes...all this person did was notice your little one has beautiful eyes and was just maybe trying to find a way to let you know how beautiful they are. Or maybe they are trying to find a way to come over and talk to you. Don't feel so bad.
You don't have to feel like you are constantly labeling them. Just acknowledge that they are adopted. And accept that they are different and have special emotional needs.
I know familes with natural kids and one has black hair, one has brown hair, and one has blonde hair. You would think in some ways they are adopted but they aren't. Just know that you adopted your little one with all the love in the world and no matter what color eyes, hair or anything they are yours. Don't think so bad about things just take everyday as a blessing and love all your kids they are yours and you have been blessed to care for them and love them. You will always be their mom.
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